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El Paso Times, Texas, Ramon Renteria column

June 15, 2014

By Ramon Renteria, El Paso Times, Texas



June 15--So here's a little toast to all the fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers and father figures in our lives.

Let's extend the same toast to all the fathers missing from our dinner table, los hombres now dead who sometimes injected us with love, faith, compassion and the strength to do our own jobs as fathers.

Male parents will do anything for their children, loan them money to make their dreams come true, sign a car or student loan, bail them out of jail and even donate a kidney if necessary.

Fathers try to protect or insulate us from all the bad influences whether its the evils of drinking and driving or the school yard bully (pues, pegele mijo).

Good fathers spend a day at work, pick up the grandchildren or their own children at the day care on the way home and then make time to start dinner.

Fathers will let children make mistakes and live their own lives without being judgmental. So, shut down the anger, stop whining and enjoy your children while you still can.

Our fathers miss us when we leave home for good but often keep it to themselves. Some fathers are just total failures at expressing love.

One of the saddest stories in any family is to have a father who stopped loving your mother, a father who is a liar and abuser. So you feel totally disconnected to those men, as if they did not exist.

Some fathers simply don't understand that words spoken in anger can scar another person forever.

It is not the big things that fathers do for us that always matter most.

Sometimes, it's the small stuff, the special moments that our fathers share that make lifetime memories.

Do you remember your father playing or horsing around with you as children or all the family stories or cuentos that he shared at the dinner table?

And what about the time your father danced with you for the first time at the father/daughter dance at school? (Memories forever.)

Or the time that he took you fishing at the lake but spent more time fishing for beer in the ice chest.

Some fathers will even take the time to do their young daughters' hair and do it differently each day of the work week.

When was the last time that you had a good chat with your father? Nothing heavy-duty like the future of immigrants or global warming. Just you two sharing a special moment.

Sometimes, our favorite fathers are not our biological fathers but uncles or grandfathers or stepfathers who treat us as if we were their own. We put those men in a special shelf in our hearts.

The best fathers call us when we're lonely or reassure us that the cucuy in the closet is not real. They will fill our lives with laughter and good times and pick us up when we're down.

The very best fathers can fix almost anything but broken hearts.

Hey, don't forget to give fathers a break. If God had intended for us to be perfect, he would have made us mothers instead.

RamÓn RenterÍa may be reached at rrenteria@elpasotimes.com; 546-6146. Follow him @RamonRrenteria on Twitter and @RamonRenteriaEPTimes on Facebook.

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